It was exactly the same for me. I no longer post in various communities, because I didn’t like having my creativity criticised and being told that I can’t write and that I should write the way they expect me to.
I’ve had arguments on several occasions because the moderator couldn’t explain why I had to allocate a certain percentage of my upvotes to them.
I rarely received upvotes, and it took more effort than it was worth. I noticed that certain communities are discriminatory: they only want that percentage and then ignore you.
That’s not what the word ‘community’ means to me.
I decided to give up on those big communities, the contests, courses and challenges, as it’s always the same people who win, not to mention the fact that I found the hosts lacked the skills or knowledge. Many did it simply because they received high upvotes, which was the only reason to apply.
I must say it was a relief to step away from all of this and create my own world doing what I enjoy.

In the end, what matters most is that I post what I like and receive a bit of appreciation. That’s why I make a point of leaving comments.

Greetings @wakeupkitty