The Desire!

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Our human desires are numerous. If you stop an average young person on the street and ask them about their desire , you would notice that his or her desire are numerous.

Permit me to talk about the desire to be loved. There are many desires on earth but one particular desire stands out and it is the desire to be loved. Every body wants to be loved and treated nicely or rather in an intentional way.

Over time in my country the word "intentional man" became very popular because almost every lady was emphasiing that they needed an intentional man among their top list, this goes a long way to show you that the desire to be loved is very important.

Many ladies and men have given up on love because there was a time they had this desire to be loved. Either loves by a spouse, a boyfriend or girlfriend, a family member or even a best friend.

Some days ago I was speaking to a distant relation and she shared this with me , she said she has also had this desire to be loved, she said sometimes when she looks back at her life growing up until adulthood she discovered that the only love she experienced was that of family from my parents and siblings.

She said she has been so unlucky with love. The people who came into her life didn't love her that much, she loved them more therefore she did most of the loving and it ended up badly. Her relationships has never worked. She has never experienced any profound love from any man. She said she is love so deeply and affectionately.

She said the worse part is that now she no longer believes she can ever find any who who will love she selflessly. She is even afraid of getting married, she now believes there are no good men.

I became speechless at her life story and all I could say was it is well. I told her am not going to judge her for her decision but I want her to know that love still exist. I asked her weither she still has the desire to be loved and she said if it finds her fine. This simply means that desire is still there, it's not dead. I know just an act of kindness, gratitude and care from a man can melt her heart again to love.

No matter how strong you think you are, or how independent you feel or how established you are, there is still a place in your heart that desires someone to love you. You want to be treated specifically, comforted and shown kindness. You want to have someone you share your day with, discuss your challenges, tell your fears and find solution together. You want to be motivated, strengthened and made to feel like only you exist.

If you are like that my relative that have been so unlucky with love, brace up for you are not alone, now it's time to focus on yourself, love your self some more, be joyful in yourself and enjoy your own presence rather than looking for who to love you. Find purpose and enjoy it and all other things will follow! If love finds you fine but if not keep moving, it's not a do or die affair!

Cheers!